How to Support a Loved One Who is Resisting Care

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© Danielle Robertson Consulting Pty Ltd t/as DR Care Solutions

When a loved one is faced with ageing, it is common for them to resist or deny the signs of reduced functionality and therefore loss of their independence. Many customers of aged care services receive requests for service provision after a significant event such as a fall, trauma or loss of function. Clients therefore further their ageing journey before they start to receive care services. This means that the types of services they receive are more likely to be personal care services (bathing, dressing, toileting), social support and domestic services which assist to maintain their functionality and prevent readmission or recurring events.

Prevention is better than a cure. When clients start having in home care services earlier, it helps that the services can be planned and delivered in a manner which can prevent injury, incidents and further deterioration.

A loved one resisting the use of aged care services may respond positively to the idea of services being provided with the intention to help them regain functionality, maintain their independence, prevent injury or incident and keep them in their own home for longer than if they are left to their own devices.

Here are some examples of home care services which may help resisting loved ones accept care earlier in their ageing journey.

  • Domestic Assistance can assist with the prevention of physical injury and provide time to pursue activities of interest, maximising their time and energy with the things they love, rather than cleaning the home, climbing ladders or doing the heavier domestic tasks.
  • Pet care support means they can keep their pets for longer and ensure their beloved pet care needs are met.
  • Garden support can assist them in maintaining their landscape and garden in a safe and supportive manner.
  • Home Modifications such as bathroom rails, modified chairs and beds and other equipment to assist with independence and assist with preventing falls.
  • Physiotherapy can assist with maintaining physical functionality, gross motor skills and general physical fitness of the client.
  • Social support prevents feelings of isolation and mental health challenges such as anxiety and depression.
  • Group social activities facilitate meeting new friends and companions. Unfortunately, as we age, we tend to lose friendships as friends pass away.
  • Retirement villages can provide a one stop shop for all their needs including social events and companions on an ‘as needed’ basis.


These benefits are just a few ways to support loved ones considering aged care services. Receiving services is often perceived as taboo, a sign that they're losing their independence and resistance is often a sign of the denial of their ageing journey. They may be more welcoming to the option of care services if it is presented in a way which supports them to maintain their independence for longer.

At DR Care Solutions, our main aim is to keep people at home for as long as possible. Care can be provided from as little as 3 hours per visit up to 24 hours a day care using quality care providers in our network.

We work with you and your loved ones to tailor the care appropriate to their needs, wants, wishes and financial constraints. We ensure you get Government funded assistance that they are entitled to.

For further information, please feel free to contact Danielle Robertson.

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Danielle Robertson

Danielle Robertson

Working with you and your support network to get the right care outcomes for you and your loved ones. Danielle Robertson is founder and CEO of DR Care Solutions, offering aged care and disability care concierge services and expertise on how to set up the right care, support and assistance for your loved one, at the right time and in the right place. Danielle's experience in the Australian care sector spans over three and a half decades. Now that's a lot of experience, wisdom and networks!